UNDERSTANDING TANTRIC SEX

 

Once you understand the principles of tantric sex, you are on the road to greater pleasure and a closer relationship with you lover.

Tantric sex teaches you to take the natural power of your sexuality and use it to improve your sexual experiences in two ways. First, you improve your ability to make love by gaining greater understanding and better control of the activities involved. Second, you learn to use that control in ways that lead to magical power. Both of these lessons increase the pleasure for you and your partner.

A shared experience:

Tantric sex is not about controlling your partner. Tantra sees both partners as free and equal. If your lover seems uncomfortable experimenting with tantric sex, accept his or her wishes and try something else instead. Don’t forget that, in this day and age, a meeting of the bodies always requires sensible protection. Tantric sex is about mutual respect and understanding between two people. In tantric practices, the only control is of oneself and one's body.

Male and female union:

The doctrine behind tantra sees female and male as two halves of a unity. Kundalini, the name given to sexual energy, is neither male nor female - and the combination of two Kundalini, female and male (or any other grouping) is always greater then the sum of its parts. Of course, not everyone has account to a partner. If that's your situation, rest assured that you can practice the rituals, which we will discuss later, to become better prepared for the night you do have a partner. Keep in mind that tantra is far more then sex, so simply finding somebody to practice with won’t lead to the best results. You want not only a meeting of bodies, but a meeting of minds.

THE BENEFITS OF TANTRIC SEX

In addition to some serious pleasure, tantra provides a wealth of other benefits. Discover how you will reach fulfillment emotionally, spiritually and physically.

Spiritual growth:

On the spiritual side, tantra opens up an entire new world for you to explore - and that world is you. The word, "tantra" in Sanskrit means "essence". By starting to comprehend the nature of sexual energy as it originates within you, you will come to understand your body, and how it is a necessary part of the entire universe as a greater whole. Tantra teaches you that you not alone - you are part of a greater, universe whole. You are part of the universe, and not just in the literal sense of "I'm here so I must be". You are part of the universe in the sense that it will work through you to accomplish universal goals, not just personal ones. You are part of something greater.

Emotional understanding:

Tantra is a great source of emotional growth. It can give you insight into strengths and insecurities, helping you gain confidence in yourself. Tantra is not about comparing yourself with others, or being competitive. It is about accepting yourself and the people around you, not critically judging one another.

Emotional benefits:

You will benefit in many ways from learning tantra, but especially on an emotional level, as it:

* Improves your outlook on life and fosters a more understanding attitude towards others.

* Gives you more confidence in social situations.

* Allows you to understand your motivations and needs with regard to sex.

A realistic outlook:

You won’t get everyone you desire - no one does - but your desires will become more attuned to the inner qualities of the people you meet. And nothing is sillier the person who thinks he or she is a "sex master!" Understanding and experience are the keys to heightened sexual pleasure. Knowing that such things are possible leads one to partners who are capable of reaching the same heights.

Physical benefits:

Physically, tantra sex teaches self - control and offers many benefits:

* Improves circulation

* Burns up calories

* Cleanses your body by sweating out toxins

* Increases your stamina

* Increases your ability to prolong sex in other ways as well. Your goals for sex will change - you'll be able to linger on the verge of orgasm and derive entirely new pleasures from the process. Tantra enables you to reach new heights of sexual pleasures.

ENJOYING THE ART OF TANTRIC SEX

Tantric sex is an ancient mystic Eastern tradition that enables lovers to heighten their enjoyment of passion and sensuality.

Tantric sex is love - making that combines meditation and physical touch. It prolongs your love - making and puts greater emphasis on foreplay, enabling you to reach a state of sexual ecstasy. All ancient religions knew that sex is the power that can raise mind and spirit to the heavens. Yoga masters develop rituals to call forth our sexual energy and channel it toward higher realms. These rituals are known as tantric sex.

Reaching for new heights:

Tantric sex is the key to complete sexual pleasure and magical power. The two are connected, because, as your sexual energy flows, your subconscious is intimately involved. As magic comes from the subconscious, tantric sex allows you to make love with greater enjoyment. Tantric sex is based on an ancient tradition of sensuality and physical pleasure, enabling lovers to reach a union with the divine.

The power of kundalini:

Tantra draws upon the power of natural energy the yogis call kundalini, which is nothing more of less the "electricity" you feel when you're aroused. Getting turned on and heading for bedroom is fun enough by itself, but once you've mastered tantra you'll soon find that it can be much more satisfying. Imagine kundalini as golden energy pouring down your spine to your mind.

Harnessing energy:

Kundalini is perfect in tune with your body as it is generated by your body. It originates at the base of your spine, and obviously plays an important role when used in nearby areas. Through ritual, however, you can direct it to rise along the spine and put its power to use in the brain, providing yourself with an "orgasm of the mind". The great thing about orgasms of the mind is that bodily orgasms are enhanced rather lost in the process.

AROUSING YOUR SENSES

Tantric practices are based on concentrating on physical sensations, and enhancing and focusing on your sensuality within. To achieve this, tantra starts with five senses.

1. Sight - Sight is the first sense. Tantra can be performed with the lights on so that enjoyment of visual beauty is not hindered. But a great way to focus the input from the other senses is to blindfold your partner, heightening non-visual sensations.

2. Taste- Sense two is taste. A tantric ritual always involves food. This can vary from a feast to a single taste, and is entirely up to the participants, but taste must be stimulated. No particular food or drink is specified, but cheese and wine are common. This food should be preferably being consumed only during rituals.

3. Touch - The third sense is touch. Tantric touch rituals often use the thumb and forefinger of both hands, so traditional texts speak of trimming the nails of your thumb and forefinger as short as possible to create a smooth, gentle touch. Using massage oil would not be appropriate for tantric sex because it increases the rush towards climax, thus defeating the purpose of the ritual.

4. Scent - Sense four is scent, and includes general cleanliness and the natural, unique scent of each individual. Cleanliness is a virtue, of course, and should be practiced by all tantriks, but in addition, the ritual cleaning of your tantric partner using your hands and a warm, wet cloth develops the awareness of one's sexuality. You can increase your sensual pleasure by using incense of a scented candle. But remember that additions to tantric rituals should enhance the mood, not the urge to orgasm.

5. Hearing - Sense five is hearing, and what a tantric must hear is consent and commitment from your partner. No partner is ever controlled, no partner is ever cajoled, and no partner is even forced. Tantra, when it involves two people, involves two willing people, if your partner is not in the mood, practice a solitary ritual instead. You can further enhance your sensual pleasure by playing atmosphere music or experimenting with the sounds of various bells or wind chimes.

THE RULES OF ONE HOUR

The masters who developed tantra understood that students may not continue long enough to master it and may settle for instant stimulation. For this reason they instituted the "rule of one hour".

Controlling desire:

This rule simply says that you cannot indulge in sex (including masturbation) for one hour before or one hour after a tantric ritual. This focuses on the mind on the ritual working as a special time, and prevents it from becoming just another physical gratification. It concentrates the mind on the energy building up inside you during the hour before it can be utilized. If the energy is placed under control during the tantric ritual, it also concentrates the mind during the hour afterward.

When practicing tantric rituals, concentrate on stimulating your senses, however, follow the rule of one hour to make the most of your pleasures.

 

 

Sources: My own sources, tidbits of information on my book called Understanding tantric sex and enjoying the art of tantric sex. You, friendship and love, spiritual sexuality. Chapter 13 page 3.

My thoughts:

This is a wonderful practice in this ritual; it definitely is a sexual eye awakener to anyone's soul. It arouses your stimulations so deeply, the perfect key in this ritual, is not to actually rush into orgasm. But enjoying the body to the fullest, with touch, smell and hearing. Masturbation is a natural play, it can also include in this ritual as well. It can sure awaken anyone's soul, the fulfillment of it all.

Lisa Tarrance